Please, Just Stop

Gender Identity > Sexual Identity

Okay gay cis babies, let’s imagine that you are in a relationship with someone of the same sex, and as far as you know, gender, but then one day, they confess to you that they feel that they are trans.

Guess what, you can’t claim the gay/lesbian label anymore. 

I don’t really give two flying fucks if your sexual identity is important to you, I should hope that your relationship, your goddamned emotions are even more important. And so is your trans partner’s. Continuing to refer to yourself as either gay or lesbian not only causes emotional stress or dysphoria unto your partner, it could possibly out them to people who don’t need to know such things. Out them to people who could possibly cause them harm over the fact. 

Continuing to refer to yourself as gay/lesbian, when your partner is now identifying either privately or publically as the other gender is a real spit in the face, and is entirely selfish.

No, it is not selfish for them to ask you to say that you are no longer gay/lesbian. It takes absolutely nothing out of you day to do so to go from gay/lesbian to bi/pan/etc.  If your friends or family can’t handle it, then they aren’t good to be around in the first place. If people start to berate you, (and though I highly doubt it) attack you over it, you need to remember that it is not near the severity of what your partner is going through or the violence they are threatened with, (trans*people have it worse than people of sexual minorities, get over it), and it is something the two of you will have to work through if either of you want to be able to continue your relationship. 

Don’t you dare try to talk them out of it. They came out to you. They trusted you. They trusted you enough to believe you would not hurt them with their great secret. And let me tell you, getting upset over the fact you can’t have the claim to a label anymore is fucking insulting and is acting like a complete fucking jackass.

It does not illegitimatize anything that you’ve done before with the LBGTQ community, and it does not mean that you suddenly have to put all males back onto your options list. It just means that you are, now, in a heterosexual relationship, and therefore, can no longer label yourself gay/lesbian.

If you seriously cannot handle that, you need to get your cis-sexist ass out of the fucking relationship. 

on a better note, I got some coloured skinnies and a floral tank top. 

if wearing nice clothes in public didn’t freak me the fuck out, I’d wear the shit out of these tomorrow!

“I say it because it bugs you”

Nothing really grinds my gears more than when people I know use the excuse “Well I just don’t give fuck” when it comes to shit like racial slurs and other words like ‘tranny’, ‘fag’, the likes. 

“I wasn’t raised believing it was offensive”. That doesn’t mean it’s not fucking offensive.

If a friend knows something irritates you, bugs you, makes you uncomfortable, and they still do it. Drop them. 

People obviously don’t understand something. maybe you should read this.

triumphandstruggle:

I understand that peoples ancestors went through fucken hell. i UNDERSTAND that and do i think its fucken terrible what people did to them ABSOLUTELY!!!!

Every single color/ race has had slavery at one time or another, black slaves weren’t introduced to white society until man was able to sail the world. Stronger african tribes would battle with weaker african tribes and capture them and put them into slavery. When white men would come into africa they would be traded to the white man and introduced into european and american society. The romans had slaves and they were white, hitler had slaves that were white.

They were not slaves because they were white though. Those were POWs and hatred based on religion. Not the same thing.

So its not only african american people that had ancestors that were slaves but they are the ones that are the most talked about, The holocaust, millions of people were slaughtered.

Would you tell someone of Jewish decent to get over and move on from the Holocaust if they knew they lost family to it or that practitioners of their belief were made into something less than animals?

 So i am not racist against african people.

Lalalalalala, Jewish people were killed so I’m not racist alalalalala.

Im not saying that people shouldn’t talk about their ancestors what Im saying is african american people should not hold a grudge against white people because there was slavery, they should not feel that they should be owed something when it was not them or there parents and sometimes not for generations before them that were affected. 

You do realise that the Civil Rights movement was only about 40 years ago, right?

And let me assure you, the slavery thing plays a role in it, but the prejudice for us white folk comes from the fact that it is institutionally made to be that we are better off than PoC. They are still affected. They are they are.

How as a nation are we ever supposed to move forward when people are not letting things move forward,

If ‘people’ here means ‘white people’ then yes, this is true.

yes we should always be taught about it but it should not become something that we dwell on forever and continue the hate. My fucking boyfriend is half african american.  

I’m not racist, I’m dating a black man!

We should focus on the genocide that is happening all over the world right now instead of always focusing on the past. 

By the way, just because someone is black doesn’t mean they’re African.

(Source: triumphwithoutstruggle)